I'm not here to talk about the mythitcal or mythological fangy vampires, that drain your blood with their fangs, like the one's you see in the movies.
And no, I'm not here to talk about this guy either:
But what I am here to talk to you is about, are psychic vampires.
Oh yeah... those ones do exist.
Instead of leaching your blood to gain life essence, these vampires come in contact with you and drain your emotions, aura and energy and use it to make themselves feel better. And like the vampires of legend, a psychic vampire can "turn" you, too - with enough of your energy drained, you can become an energy drainer yourself, feeding off the positive emotions of others to sustain yourself. You do not want to hang around these people, because these are not the vampires that will save you from across the world and create a Cinderella story with you. Sorry to break it to you ladies.
In all seriousness, let us dive deeper into the concept of physic vampires; their origins, what they are, and how to spot these drainers in our daily worlds.
Let's begin.
Vampires are Real
Have you ever talked to somebody, a long or short conversation, only to feel exhausted and drained after chatting with them?First time I've encountered this was during my last year of middle school. It was the first day of school, only to have been late because I spilled apple juice all over my WHITE shirt.
Bad start to a day. I sat on the chair of the desk that was only available in the room, which was beside some random guy, which I have never talked to. He would stroke up a conversation with me here and there, and it would start out harmless. But everytime he would talk to me, the conversation would turn out unbelievably negative. By the time each conversation ended, I felt drained, while he would walk away seemingly in a good mood.
If you've said "yes" to my question above, or can relate to my story, you most likely have encountered a psychic vampire.
These people are the downers. They're the ones who make you feel bad. They speak poison, shatter dreams, and make you want to give up and go home. And the most talented of them do it while making it difficult for you to tell what they're doing.
Vampires... or Not?
Now I'm not saying that all negative people are vampires... I know some really amazing, nice and energetic people who just have had a bad day, and because of that, they have some negative emotions built up inside at that particular time that I interact with them. And that's perfectly fine, I understand and will try to do anything to help them.However, what I am saying is that any person who is negative in any way has the ability and a higher potential to become a psychic vampire.
Simply put, negative people are the ones you see in movies, they've been bitten, and just waiting to be transformed into a vampire. Or those characters that are paranoid of turning, and just bash on other people to relieve their stress. Either one.
So you might be thinking, well it's pretty obvious to spot negative people and I should just easily avoid them, right?!?!.
Nope. Not psychic vampires, they're different. Most likely manipulative, these guys are sneaky, sometimes knowingly, sometimes unknowingly, and they come to you in two main forms:
- Puts on a happy face, trying to maintain positivity, but eventually sucks you into their negativity within them;
- Knows exactly what they're doing, and drains you intentionally for their own benefits.
They usually start out very friendly, cool, maybe with compliments and other flattering words, deceiving their intentions. This is their way of slithering in. And once they know that you've opened up, and feel like you guys are connected, they lock you in.
And then, they begin to drain.
Are you Vulnerable?
Well, depends.Are you a nice person? And by that, I don't mean a pushover nice guy/girl, mind you.
Just not a raging asshole.
If you are a raging asshole, great. You have less things to worry about when you encounter a psychic vampire.
However, if you're a nice guy/girl, you're most likely vulnerable, or already have been vulner-ed (not a word, I know) by a psychic vampire.
It's because when you're nice, your level of sympathy is higher than the average Joe walking down the street. Once these people start telling their sob stories, you feel their misery, you feel as if you could save them from the trap that they live in and turn around their life . And once you have fulfilled their void, then you would have a new partner, a new buddy, a new loyal friend that stays with you forever.
Only, that you can't turn around.
It's because they live in life of a black hole of despair... their lives and mentality have been fixed to specific structure, maybe from past memories, current situations, or maybe even hereditary effects.
But whatever the reason, they will use you and the first thing they want to do is seek emotional reassurance from someone who is supportive like you; meaning they will feed off the stash of wonderful and rich emotions within you.
You might say, but they're humans, they should still appreciate the effort and time you put into them, and after all, people are an emotional being, right. However, the fact is that they feel no emotional attachment from all the support and encouragement you provided, because they felt better from you from not what you gave them, but through winning.
They view it as their mission to convince you that they are right - whatever it is, they argue over things that are a worthless waste of time, and because they are an expert at arguing on negative topics, you are wrong in thinking otherwise.
And being the empathic, supportive, knight that you are, you become attached, and try to save this person through their misery. Except we all know that knights don't beat dragons.
But I'm Different!
"But I'm different! You're probably just doing it all wrong!"
I'm not saying that it's impossible to save people from their misery. It is possible. But it is extremely difficult and you have to know exactly know what you're doing to save them.
Let me repeat. Execution level is difficult, knowledge must be at its peek, and during the process, you become VERY, VERY vulnerable to turning into a vampire yourself.
And if you fail, psychic vampires have already drained everything within you, and then they move onto their next victim, seeking the same thing that you provided for these people, leaving you in the dust.
There was a girl, who shall be called "felicity", was a psychic vampire. Obviously, being the clumsy and naive boy that I was, I actually liked Felicity (wtf) and try to save her from her misery for three years. Yup, you read that right. Three wasted years. Anyways, I did ALOT of research, and after three years, I made her change some things into positive light. But that was after three years of my time, my effort, and my energy drained from her negativity and my attempt to change her life. And yet still her fundamental mindsets were pretty damn negative.
Even to this day, I still think she was an amazing, gorgeous, brown eyes brown hair girl. But having wasted all that effort, to make some changes in her life, was not worth it in retrospect. That's why I'm saying it is possible, but it requires serious effort and time on your hand, and best to be avoided at all costs. And trust me, I did not enjoy my life at that stage of time.
Spotting a Vampire
Sometimes you will accuse the wrong people as vampires when you start out.That`s perfectly fine, but you must realize that the fundamental thing that you MUST look for is:
-Complainer, not fixer.Now there`s a catch here, because you have to know the difference. Some people complain, but still make an effort to get their stuff done. These fellows are fixers. Complainers just complain, and simply sit and hope that everything will come together if they just continue to complain.
Sometimes, you can be unsure even after this core idea, then be sure to look for these factors, as these individuals are ALWAYS:
- Trapped inside a mentality of "why me"
- PERMANENTLY immune to your efforts to bolster their confidence, your suggestions, in order for them to always "win"
- ALWAYS in need of an emotional "fix" from you, or others
- Always brings up negative events in their life, or during your conversation
- Do they listen to your complains, or anything you have to say in general?
- How many of his or her promises have ever been fulfilled anywhere close to the degree which he or she led you to imagine them being fulfilled?
- How do you feel after you talk to them? Same, great, or drained?
Drained is when you're mentally drained, you lose your morals, and you don't feel like talking to anyone else after. The effect is longlasting usually, and you will feel the difference between bored and drained.
After reading the symptoms, you might be thinking... wait a minute... I have some of these qualities!It's OK! No need to panic, no need to shut down this article because you think I'm wrong, you can slowly lower than gun pointed at your head.
The cure is not too difficult to pull off, as the key to improving yourself is to be positive. I might make another article later on positivity, but I'll do that on another day, as this one is getting pretty long. But the basic idea is, if you think you have some of these qualities, just relax, and try to work to get rid of one of each quality a week. Maintain positivity, and just be happy! You'll gradually lose all these qualities.
Don't be a Vampire
Most vampires aren't bad people.Usually they're just people who haven't figured out that complaining instead of fixing destroys their relationships and makes them and everyone else around them miserable in the process.
Occasionally you will meet someone who is, in concert with being a vampire, a skilled, and very conscious, manipulator, and simply uses psychic vampirism as a way of lowering his or her victims' as a form of manipulation, in order to obtain something they desire.
But most of the time, vampires are just beat-down people with hard lives.
It's tempting to want to try and help them... but you can't. I promise you.
And you can't tell them they're a vampire... they'll just get upset and complain that you've got it all wrong. And you can't tell them they're not fixing things in their lives... they'll tell you those things CAN'T be fixed, and you're crazy if you think otherwise.
Psychic vampires can be awesome people, they can be funny, entertaining, talented, smart, and have other amazing qualities about them. You can hang around them, fantastic. But once these people begin unleash their occasional, daily negativity, do not in any circumstance, get involved with them.
And if you ever notice yourself behaving like a vampire...
... if you notice yourself complaining to other people, and telling those people things are IMPOSSIBLE when they try to help or try giving you advice...
... repeatedly winning debates over negative topics...
... if you see people repeatedly growing weary and worn out just being in your presence...
... it's time to step back, quit dumping your issues on other people, focus on fixing your stuff instead of complaining about it, and start encouraging other people to do the things they want to do and helping them to find ways to do it, instead of trying to tell them their ideas won't work and they should just do what you want them to do.
In real life, you can't stake a vampire in the heart.
But you can ward him off and either get away, or make it intolerable for him to be around you.But how do you ward them off? And that will be the next topic for the blog... thanks for reading!
Cheers,
Kevin
